Day 174 – Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway

by lilla on June 6, 2008

I had planned on doing some cardio and weight-training today but it just didn’t happen. I hung out at home all day catching up on work… and thinking. I’ve had a really odd feeling lately that I’m at a crossroad and some big changes are coming. I can’t quite put my finger on it. I’m not sure if I want to stay in NJ or move on to something new. I’ve been thinking about going back to the Vipassana Meditation Center for 10-days of service followed by 10-days of secluded meditation. There is absolutely NO internet access there (you’re not allowed to use phones, read books or even talk) so I don’t know what that would mean to my Council eligibility.

I was watching Oprah today and this quote caught my attention: “Feel the fear and do it anyway.” I love it. It can be applied to so many things – new adventures, career moves, relationships, even transformations. Sometimes I think I ‘m subconsciously scared to attain my full body transformation and I keep sabotaging myself when I get close. Mentally, I want to go back to my smaller body and weight and I have all the resources I need to do it, but something within me is holding me back. I really need to breakthrough this block with my upcoming mission.

I guess I’m also missing my life back in Arizona. I feel like I was such a different person then. I didn’t care for material things, just experiences and people. I lost that connection, that “knowing” and I want to get back to that place. I should be able to access it from wherever I am, whenever I want but my NJ life and the responsibilities that come with it make it harder.

I’m just making excuses and rambling now, so I’ll cut this post short. On the plus side, I did work out my nutrition plan for my next mission and this weekend I’ll firm up my workout plan. I also finally contacted a bunch of my NJ friends that I’ve been avoiding. It was fun reconnecting with them on the phone but I’m also feeling the pressure of finding time to meet up with them all now.

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  • Debbie
    Lilla, thanks for your honesty. For me, the more obsessive I become about my weight, bodyfat, calories, etc, the more it seems to slow down my progress. It's a mental block and I get disappointed with myself that I put so much emphasis on those things when there are much larger issues that could use my time & focus.


    Good luck on your decision. I know it won't be an easy one.
  • Michael
    Lilla, this post reminded me of why I really love you so much. You are not afraid to say exactly what you feel. I think it was an extremely brave post today. I can definitely say I understand the sabotage thing. I feel like that happens with my training at times. I think it is healthy that you are examining these issues. You will end up deciding upon a path that is best for you. You are extremely bright and intelligent and you are in touch with yourself. All of that combined will get you to where you need to be.
  • Suzette
    well, I vote for the "kick-ass shred mission" !! That is my goal for my firm butt challenge/"harley" mission, to literally "kick ass"! lol.
    do hope you find your way. It is my opinion that the only way to true inner peace is through our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ.



    I know you can do this, too!
  • Marbella
    Forget to say Lilla that don´t want to lose you. Hope things work out where we have access to you and your life. You do mean a lot to me and to this group. Sending good *find the way* vibes.
    Lynda
  • Marbella
    This finding our way in life is always such a hard road. Hard to find it, and hard to do it when we do. The body transformation seems to be at the heart of it all. Only WE can do that for ourselves, and wonder why we don´t just do it, get ourselves to the spot where we feel at our very BEST, and live life from there? That´s what I want to do. Time is running out on doing that...and still am NOT. Why? One thing for sure. We each have a place that is the sweet spot. Find it and find xanadú!
    Lynda
  • Bob
    Hi Lilla, It's incredible but I feel the same feeling in my life. Maybe our physical transformation is taking a too important part of our life. Imagine that you are forced to stop training for 6months, your body would breack down; even if you won't totaly go back in your past shape what would happen? depression? I'm totally scared about that but I can only keep shredding like a sport junky. I realize that sport has given me self confidence and satisfaction but it has also generate personal troubles (work, family).
    I did not manage to structure my professional and family life : And I have focused all my hopes on the only things which brought me some satisfactions; doing sport...



    take care



    Bob
  • Mike Groom
    Lilla - sorry to hear your woes! You will get through it though. The Universe will send something your way I know it.


    I was talking to someone this morning about the "all or nothing" mentality. It's something that I struggle with also.
  • www.kalililla.com
    Thank you for your thoughtful posts, Suz and Diane.


    I wish I could say with exactness why I self-sabotage myself. Right now I feel like I could go either way - either into a downward binge cycle or a kick-ass shred mission. Why is it always all or nothing?



    I know I can do this!
  • My 1-2-3 Fat Loss Solution
    Lilia: I was moved after reading your post...you have to do what is best for you...what is in your gut...do it. Sometimes we hesitate cause we don't know what's ahead...the unknown scares us, but you don't want to live in regret do you? Shouda/coulda/woulda?/remove all the a's and do what your heart is saying...confirmation will come to show you the right timing...praying for you.
  • Suzette
    Lilla, You're quote reminds me of a quote from Joyce Meyer from one of her books, "Confident Woman". "Do it afraid."
    I know what you mean about getting back to a place you were in the past. I don't think I have had the same drive and determination about my weight loss since my initial "mission" when I first started losing weight, before I even found Adam. I was in a zone then. nothing was going to get in my way of reaching my goal(lose 30lbs by Christmas). I have had so many plateau's since...not just weight loss plateau's but mental plateau's. I think I am getting closer though. I think what you focus on is something to think about.

    why do you think we self-sabotage? what is it that we are afraid of?
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